I had been treating a young woman, married for eight months, who was referred to my practice because all attempts at intercourse were painful, and their marriage was still unconsummated. After a few months of physical therapy, she was making excellent progress. One day, her husband called me to discuss his wife’s treatment. After attaining consent from my patient to discuss our sessions with her husband, I spoke with him on the phone one afternoon. I described his wife’s course of treatment and progress toward her goals. I reassured him that she was doing well, and that she was on track to meet all of her goals for treatment. Sensing our conversation was drawing to a close, he pleaded,”Please, just one more question…”
“I need to know for my shalom bayit, is my wife’s pain real? Or is it in her head?”
I focused my thoughts on the face of my patient during our treatment sessions, on the perseverance, courage, and determination she brought to each session, and answered, “100%, your wife’s pain is real”
As a physical therapist specializing in women’s health and pelvic floor dysfunction, I have found that kallah teachers are in a unique position to act as a trusted resource for new kallot. A well-informed kallah teacher often has the opportunity to help prevent or help identify difficulties that women may experience as they grow into a physically intimate relationship with their husbands.