“You mean I still have to flirt,” Rachel asked me, as we discussed ways to spice up her sometimes stagnant marriage. “Surely there must be another way.”
A bit of background. Rachel and her husband, in their mid-30s are a highly educated couple, and have been married for 7 years. They have 3 kids and live on a Yishuv. They both travel to work in opposite directions, one to Tel Aviv and the other to Jerusalem. Needless to say, the strain of working 6 days a week, without much outside help, doesn’t leave this busy duo with much spare time or space for fun.
They came to couples therapy because they reached a point in their marriage where they felt little space for fun and adventure. They want to feel more alive and excited, but it’s hard to get those feelings when they’re both so busy – after helping the kids with homework, feeding them dinner, giving baths, story and sleep-time, there remain piles of laundry and never ending tidying up. [Read more…]