As a psychologist, I work a lot with adult survivors of child sexual abuse — a difficult but vital topic to discuss. Sexual abuse occurs in every community, including the religious community. Survivors of sexual abuse may experience significant difficulties in the intimate parts of their marriages. They may have anxiety, aversion to touch, flashbacks to the abuse, and experience sexual dysfunction. They may view sex as an obligation, something that is hurtful, that is done to control and use them.
Madrichot Kallah and madrichei Chatanim [premarital counselors for brides and grooms] are in a special position of preparing people for marriage. I’d like to give some advice for those in the field, to be able to help individuals who have suffered abuse. [Read more…]