According to the laws of Family Purity, for a portion of each month, husband and wife are not allowed to be physically intimate with one another or touch one another. Many explain these laws as being a method of bringing rejuvenation to the marital relationship. This explanation rests on the understanding that we desire that which we do not have and therefore being “forbidden” to one another renews interest and attraction between husband and wife.
In addition to looking at the benefits of spending time apart in a relationship I believe that the laws of family purity encourage us to renew our respect for the Divine soul that rests within my spouse. Rav Shagar writes about the instances, like Moshe at the burning bush, during which those who encountered God chose to cover their faces. I believe that the “covering of the face” is an act that is similar to the time during which husband and wife take a step back from one another each month. Rav Shagar states that the covering of one’s face can be seen as deriving [Read more…]